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30 Days Of Truth(27) What Is The Best Thing Going For Your Life?

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     Hmmm, the best thing going for my life right now is that I am alive. I am so lucky to be free to live my life. I can enjoy the world around me and help others. Sometimes its the small things like getting knee socks on sale for a dollar. I am healthy. I am growing and learning more and more each day. Yes, my life is the best thing going for me. 

     My hair is also a great thing going for me. Even though I attempted to do something completely different with it yesterday. Oh, it was funny. My hair said “Excuse me, have you forgotten who I am?”. So its going to be a free curly fro for a bit(until it decides it is ready to grow again). 

     I’m trying to change up my style a bit(go a tad retro). So, I think that is awesome too. I have the ability to make changes no matter how small. I’m up for any adventure. I can take time to reflect and learn from it. 

I guess I am just thankful for today 🙂

30 Days of Truth(24) Make A Play List To Someone(aka the move on jams)

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This playlist is for all my exes because these are the songs I find myself playing when one of them crosses my mind:

1. Payphone by Maroon5 and Wiz Khalifa because its the truth and it makes me dance at the same time 🙂 Plus, Wiz kills his verses 🙂

2. Let It Go by Keyshia Cole f. Missy and Kim because this song is still the jam and everyone’s verse says “Hey you wish”

3. Heartless by Kanye because even though I have issues with Kanye this song is the truth

4. Ain’t Gon’ Cry by Mary J. Blige because Mary speaks more truth and I love Waiting to Exhale

5. Up Out My Face by Mariah Carey the reprise because nothing says keep it moving like a live marching band 🙂

6. Shake It Off by Mariah Carey because everybody knows when they have to shake off the nonsense. 

7. Wait Till You See My Smile by Alicia Keys because even though you might cry for a minute, just remember why it didn’t work out and you can smile.

8. Cry Me A River by Justin Timberlake because everybody can catch feelings  but once you realize they aren’t the same, you gotta bounce. 

9 .Say Something by Timbaland and Drake because people act funny when you do better. Oh well.

10. Let Him Fly by The Dixie Chicks because when you have done all you can in the relationship, you have to let it go. 

11. She Let Herself Go by George Strait because when you do things for yourself, they turn out much better.

12. What Hurts The Most by Rascall Flatts because everybody has a low point in their journey. 

13. Blame It On Me by Chrisette Michelle because sometimes you just have to go and you don’t care if the other person doesn’t want to take responsibility for their part. 

14. Epiphany by Chrisette Michelle because once you know in your knower, you have to move on.

15. Survivor by Destiny’s Child because its one of my ultimate motivation songs and I am a survivor 🙂

16. Chain of Fools by Aretha Franklin because when you can admit that someone played you, you can do better and work on you so that it doesn’t happen in the future. 

17. RESPECT by Aretha Franklin because when you have respect for yourself you won’t tolerate disrespect from a partner

18. Thinking Of You by Kesha because its motivating and is a great response when people keep blowing up your phone. 

19. Uninvited by Alanis Morissette because sometimes you just have to let people know that they don’t have a spot in your life anymore

20. Jar Of Hearts by Christina Perri because she puts your thoughts together so perfectly. Also, its ok to ask someone “Who do you think you are?”. 

Well, I could probably go on and on but I think this is definitely a good playlist whenever you need a boost or need to shake off a non reality thought about someone who treated you badly in reality. 

Shalom

 

30 Days Of Truth(22) Something You Wish You Hadn’t Done In Your Life

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Oh wow! What’s up with these negative writing prompts?

Something that I wish I hadn’t done in my life, oh let’s see, pretty much everything. 

There are so many things that I will just number them

1. I wish I hadn’t bullied all of those kids when I was young. It was due to all the abuse I lived and the bullying done to me.

2. I wish that I hadn’t slapped MW in junior high. She wasn’t worth it

3. I wish that I would have listened to my uncle and went on that college visit. I was too stubborn

4. I wish I wasn’t so aggressive with guys. It has never gotten me what I wanted

5. I wish I would have treated my Mom better. Even though she treated me bad. I miss her. 

6. I wish I would have never went to work the day my Mom was sick. I still think her death was my fault.

7. I wish I could go along to get along. I’m so stubborn to a fault

8. I wish I didn’t let everything affect me. Most days I shake it off.

9. I wish I would have never started drinking. 

10. I wish I would have never entertained my exes. They weren’t worth it

Long story short, I try to look on the bright side of everything and know that God has a plan for me no matter how it twists and turns. I want to live every moment to the fullest. I want to smile and laugh more than I have ever cried. 

Thankfully I have every opportunity to do that. 

What say you?

30 Days Of Truth(20) Your Views On Drugs And Alcohol

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     Wow, this is going to be a doozey of a post. I am in recovery from alcohol(coming up on two years). I have actually always been against drugs and alcohol. Then I started to drink when I turned 25(due to being given a drink without knowing there was alcohol in it and being off to the races). 

     I grew up around drugs and alcohol my whole life. I also grew up with DARE and Just Say No To Drugs. So, even though I was around drugs and alcohol, I was told that I could not even think about doing them. Seeing the effects that drugs and alcohol had on the people around me, I didn’t want to even attempt it. I didn’t see the point. My parents were huge cigarette smokers too and even though I tried one once, it just didn’t make sense to me. 

     After my Mom passed from COPD(due to smoking), my family told me to start living my life. So I hung out with people who partied and just drank water and then cranberry juice. Once I stepped my toes in the pool of alcohol, everything clicked. I never fit in when I was out partying but the alcohol helped me to forget that for the most part. Until it made me remember everything else. 

     I am a very sensitive person(literally) and I’m super hyper without coffee(that’s one reason why I don’t drink coffee and I hate the taste). So the alcohol tapped every part of my sensitivity. I would go straight from being loud and wacky to sleepy and blacking out. So even though my drinking career was short lived, it was still long enough for me to remember and not want to go back. 

     Also, while drinking I accepted scraps from tons of guys who drank and did drugs. Looking back on certain quasi-relationships, when I am asked if I would have been with those people if I were not drinking, I say absolutely not. I was sober in my last relationship but I didn’t have very much emotional sobriety. I thought that once a person professed his love for me(which has only happened twice in my life) that it would be enough to overcome any and everything. I didn’t listen to my intuition(even though it was ringing loudly). Now I know that saying you love someone and loving someone are two different things. I also made it clear to that person that I was not having kids with someone who wasn’t sober(because that would have been repeating my life all over again). 

     Once I stopped partying, my people, places, and things changed dramatically. All of my party friends still party and when I am in a really good mood(aka can ignore the jabs about my non-drinking) I can see people and have fun with my cranberry juice. I wish people could see that I’m still me just better sober. 

     I like to think that I have a lot of fun in recovery. Being sober allows me to have sober thoughts in all areas of my life. Even though I am an uber romantic, I know that I can evaluate who I let into my life with both eyes open. Usually because I am so sensitive, as soon as someone says something that irks me to my core, I shut down and politely remove myself from their presence. 

     Drugs are a no brainer for me now. No matter how hot or how fine an addict might be, in my eyes, an addict will always be an addict. As a result, I cannot let myself get too close. I believe that while drugs may make a person think that they feel out of this world, they slowly eat away at the brain. I truly believe that. So my ideal partner would not use drugs or alcohol. 

    In the meantime I just live my life one day at a time and try to be the best me I can. Sober. 

30 Days Of Truth(20) Your Views On Drugs And Alcohol

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     Wow, this is going to be a doozey of a post. I am in recovery from alcohol(coming up on two years). I have actually always been against drugs and alcohol. Then I started to drink when I turned 25(due to being given a drink without knowing there was alcohol in it and being off to the races). 

     I grew up around drugs and alcohol my whole life. I also grew up with DARE and Just Say No To Drugs. So, even though I was around drugs and alcohol, I was told that I could not even think about doing them. Seeing the effects that drugs and alcohol had on the people around me, I didn’t want to even attempt it. I didn’t see the point. My parents were huge cigarette smokers too and even though I tried one once, it just didn’t make sense to me. 

     After my Mom passed from COPD(due to smoking), my family told me to start living my life. So I hung out with people who partied and just drank water and then cranberry juice. Once I stepped my toes in the pool of alcohol, everything clicked. I never fit in when I was out partying but the alcohol helped me to forget that for the most part. Until it made me remember everything else. 

     I am a very sensitive person(literally) and I’m super hyper without coffee(that’s one reason why I don’t drink coffee and I hate the taste). So the alcohol tapped every part of my sensitivity. I would go straight from being loud and wacky to sleepy and blacking out. So even though my drinking career was short lived, it was still long enough for me to remember and not want to go back. 

     Also, while drinking I accepted scraps from tons of guys who drank and did drugs. Looking back on certain quasi-relationships, when I am asked if I would have been with those people if I were not drinking, I say absolutely not. I was sober in my last relationship but I didn’t have very much emotional sobriety. I thought that once a person professed his love for me(which has only happened twice in my life) that it would be enough to overcome any and everything. I didn’t listen to my intuition(even though it was ringing loudly). Now I know that saying you love someone and loving someone are two different things. I also made it clear to that person that I was not having kids with someone who wasn’t sober(because that would have been repeating my life all over again). 

     Once I stopped partying, my people, places, and things changed dramatically. All of my party friends still party and when I am in a really good mood(aka can ignore the jabs about my non-drinking) I can see people and have fun with my cranberry juice. I wish people could see that I’m still me just better sober. 

     I like to think that I have a lot of fun in recovery. Being sober allows me to have sober thoughts in all areas of my life. Even though I am an uber romantic, I know that I can evaluate who I let into my life with both eyes open. Usually because I am so sensitive, as soon as someone says something that irks me to my core, I shut down and politely remove myself from their presence. 

     Drugs are a no brainer for me now. No matter how hot or how fine an addict might be, in my eyes, an addict will always be an addict. As a result, I cannot let myself get too close. I believe that while drugs may make a person think that they feel out of this world, they slowly eat away at the brain. I truly believe that. So my ideal partner would not use drugs or alcohol. 

    In the meantime I just live my life one day at a time and try to be the best me I can. Sober. 

30 Days Of Truth(19) What Do You Think Of Religion

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Well, religion can be seen by some as a hot topic. We are taught that it is not polite to discuss religion at the dinner table. Please remember these are only my opinions. I think that religion is awesome. I find that religion is a path for many to draw closer to what they believe in. The quote that sticks in my brain is “Religion is for people who don’t want to go to hell, and spirituality is for those who have been through it”. This quote gets attributed to many people. One version is said to come from Frank Warren.

Because I have grown up with religion all of my life(born and raised Baptist, changed membership to Presbyterian, now just go by Christian, even though I am probably a dyed in the wool Baptist for life). My undergrad degree is actually in theology(people outside of Christian circles don’t really tend to care too much about that). I love learning about religion and how people live out their faith. This is one reason why I love to hear how people with no religion live. I always try to hear them out and look at things from their point of view.

I know that Jesus didn’t call me to be a jerk to those who believe differently than I do. So nine times out of ten I truly do try to listen to what someone has to say. I really hate it when some people try to paint all Christians with the same brush. I don’t do that(anymore) and it saddens me when people do it. I try to judge people on their own merits. Also, just because I am a Christian doesn’t mean that I agree with everything that another Christian says.

It saddens me when people kill each other in the name of religion. It also saddens me when people look at only the Old Testament and don’t look at the New(because when you do that, you don’t get to actually meet Jesus). I know that religion is a foundation of the lives of many in the world and I think that we all have more in common than we care to know.

Thanks for reading and pray for me as I pray for you 🙂

Shalom!

30 Days Of Truth(18) Your Views On Gay Marriage

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Well, as I grew up my views on gay marriage changed drastically. I grew up in a very legalistic conservative church and we really didn’t talk about the LGBT community ever. I have always known people in the LGBT community. As I grew I realized that God loves all of us. Many in the LGBT community have stronger relationships than many hetero couples. So I am all for gay marriage. I think people who are in love and want to be married deserve to be married. I know that there is a God and its not me. I know that I want my own happily ever after so who am I to look down on someone else who wants their own?

This may lead you to say, how can you be a Christian and hold these beliefs? Well, I consider myself to be a liberal Christian(yep super open minded). Because the last time I checked Jesus hung out with everyone. I strive to be more like Jesus in all I do and I know that He wants me to love others.

What say you?