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All The Christian Ladies Aka Dating As A Christian Single, Not For The Faint Of Heart

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     So today the Thai guy mentioned that he was going to an art museum. I thought that sounded like fun. He invited me to join him. I jet to the museum to find him dressed so casually(not business casual). I was glad that I was dressed ok. We talked as we went from exhibit to exhibit(I am sure I was the loudest person in the whole place, or it just felt like I was). 

     At the end of our meet up, he took me to a store(to grab some food because I was starving). I bought some dark chocolate(71% cacao). Someone had taken one of my apples earlier in the day(because I didn’t eat it fast enough) so I had only had some nuts and a medium granny smith apple. 

     We bonded over his extensive playlists(I am a sucker for a music fan). It was fun. I was in a good mood. I think I had asked him at some point if he went to church. He mentioned that he didn’t(Christian girl problem #1). He asked me if I still wanted to go to dinner tomorrow and I said  yes because I had had a nice time. 

     Well, I hash out the details with three of my closest Christian supports. They reminded me of what my purpose was in dating. I am not dating just to date. I am dating in order to find a future mate. So, there is no point to date someone who does not share my same beliefs(no matter how hot he is). See that’s where I get in trouble(Christian girl problem #2). I have no problem glossing over important stuff if the guy is my type. That is so shallow of me. 

     I mentioned today that it seems like Christian girls are mandated to seek strong believers while Christian guys just date whoever they feel like dating. So usually when a Christian girl is dating a non believer, it is usually because she has to settle because Christian guys aren’t asking her out(Christian girl problem #3). 

     So when this nice guy asked me what a devotional was(after I explained I was reading my daily devotional), I explained what it was and then promptly deleted my online dating profiles. I had six men on one site check out my profile(and not message me) and I had one hundred and fifty guys check out my profile, twenty guys messaged me, and two guys asked me out(both non believers). On another site, I had guys let me know that that was not the site for me(with ten messaging me), so I promptly removed myself from that site. 

     Also it is hard when we have these standards and ideals of what we are looking for in a mate and no one who even remotely fits that criteria is actively pursuing us. Then add in shame and guilt from the past making me wonder if a great guy would even want to be with me. To leave a wonderful, mixed up, mess. 

    I also got tired of having to answer the same set of questions twenty times in a row.I don’t understand why guys ask questions when they know they don’t care about the answer. That is not cute. I asked a guy why guys do that and his answer was that they are looking for attention. 

     So call me premature, disillusioned, or what have you but I just needed to give up the ghost and be content with where I am in this moment. In this moment, I am single. I have to draw closer to God and focus on His plan for my life. His plans are greater than any that I could imagine. 

     I have to have faith that when I am meant to be in a relationship God will lead me on that path. So having faith, waiting, and working on myself should be enough to keep me busy until that time comes. 

Here’s to being true to yourself no matter what season you are in. 

Shalom

     

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When God Shuts A Door Or A Few

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     Last night I had talked to a few friends about a situation with my boyfriend(lets call him the less than hero). It was decided that I needed to talk to him. So I agreed. I called him(yeah broke a few rules). We had what I thought was a good conversation and had discussed seeing each other the next day. 

I woke up today in a good mood, practiced for church(a song which we did not play), and went on my way. Got to church and each song featured someone playing dueling notes(if I were playing flats others were playing sharps and vice versa). When I hear what that sounds like, it always reminds me of chalk on a chalkboard. So, I was glad that church was finished for the day. I texted the less than hero(good afternoon because he had mentioned he would be sleeping in). 

Two hours later the less than hero texts me back that it is cold(well, yeah and who cares). So as I am out to lunch with a friend, I just know what that means. So I text back that I know and I ask if he is going to stay at home. I also text and ask if he wants to reschedule. The less than hero says that maybe this would be a good idea. So I text back that I was looking forward to seeing him since I had not seen him for two weeks and that I am disappointed. Yeah, I guess it was silly to be disappointed because today would have been our two month anniversary(apparently that is a big deal to no one outside of my head). I was ticked off because I had not seen him and for the fact that I did more than a few things in the cold today. So I then accept that yes, this is the end. 

I texted a couple of others. I decided that I would jump back into the saddle. I talked to a few people close to me who said that I was doing the right thing or not to throw the baby out with the bath water. I was also told that that is just how men think. All I could see in my head was six months or a year down the road and us being in the same position. Nobody has time for that. I also could see our seeing each other being once a month(not my idea of a good time). 

So I am just going to do me. That’s pretty much all I can do. Then I heard of a few people who had died suddenly(one was a good friend). I cried. I read my devotional. I prayed. I have been thinking a lot. Now my thoughts are just basically that maybe I am not cut out for a relationship. There is no point in doing a ton of stuff for a person and investing in a relationship that isn’t there. 

They say that when God shuts a door, another one opens. I think new doors are opening all of the time, they are just nothing that I would have expected. This is probably for the best. Because God’s ways are higher than my ways and his thoughts are higher than my thoughts. 

I’m not completely giving up on relationships. I just know that I can’t rush after one. Also, actions do speak louder than words. I was just accepting the actions and trying to look on the bright side. But there is no point in being in a one sided relationship. So I figure if I pour my whole self into God, if He does have someone out there for me, He will work it out. No matter how impatient, mad, or sad I am. God knows what I need even before I ask. 

Shalom

Inviting God In

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     So over the past few days, I have heard a lot of people talk about inviting God in to our lives. Sometimes we may think that we have invited God in, but we are only inviting Him into certain areas of our lives(maybe the parts we like or seem good). The parts that we like to talk about(that make us look good). 

     Well, the awesome thing about God is He already knows every part of us. The good and the bad. The pretty and the ugly. The hopeful and the desperate. He knows it all. He loves us for all of our parts. He forgives the broken pieces. 

     So every day and this upcoming new year, I want to mindfully invite God into all areas of my life. I know that I can’t do it without Him and only He can handle all of it. I invite God in when I pray, when I open my body, soul, and spirit to His leading. When I admit that I don’t have the answers. When I lay it all on the line and thank Him for all He has done for me. I invite God in when I pray for my enemies all of the blessings that I want for myself. I invite God in when I think about the consequences of my actions. I invite God in when I love others the way God shows His love for me. I invite God in, when I walk in His light and love. 

Shalom and Blessings 🙂

Psalm 90:2 “Before the mountains were born, before you gave birth to the earth and the world, from beginning to end, you are God. ” NLT

Approach Problems Lightly

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     A lot of times I view every problem that I have as major. Some days it seems like my expertise is making mountains out of molehills. When I focus so intently on a problem, it causes me to focus on God less. God is the source of my strength. I am not the source of my strength. I may have to keep repeating that to myself. When I have a problem and it seems like it is going to mountain status, I have to bring it to God. When I have a problem and it is at molehill status, I have to bring it to God. When I look at my problems from God’s point of view, things aren’t so bad. I can breathe, I can laugh, I can love. I can do all of these things freely without worry. I need to embrace those moments fully(I am going to work on that). I will always face some sort of problem but God will always be with me. 

Shalom and Blessings

“Happy are those who hear the joyful call to worship, for they will walk in the light of your presence, LORD. ” Psalm 89:15(NLT)

Bask In The Luxury

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What a privilege it is to have God on our side. Knowing that no matter what is going on in my life, I have someone who understands me better than I understand myself. That is awesome and such a comfort. Knowing that God sees me better than I see myself is humbling. When I allow myself to be guided by God, things just seem to turn out better. I’m not as frustrated as I am when I think I run the show. 

When I take the time to be grateful and thankful for all of my blessings, I feel so much better. I can embrace the joy that God gives me. I can live in the hope of a good future. Seeing God work in the lives of others is a testament to how good He is to all of us. I don’t have to feel envy or jealousy when I am thankful for someone else’s blessing. 

Shalom and Blessings

“Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives” Galatians 5:25(NLT)

This Is The Day

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Sometimes you just have to stop and thank God. I was anxious all night trying to finish up a paper and worrying about today. I did my best to get some rest. I prayed. I woke up this morning and prayed. I went to the wrong bus stop and prayed. I made it to the right bus stop and prayed some more.
This is the day that the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it. We sing this, we pray this, and we read this. God wants us to put it into action. So as I sit here surveying the beautiful day, I am grateful. I’m grateful for having the opportunity to wake up. I’m grateful for the ability to get through my paper. I’m grateful for new opportunities.
Shalom and Blessing 🙂

Power Check

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When you wake up and feel the whole world bearing down on you, that is a day for you to fill up with God’s strength. When you wake up and feel like everything is going to be ok, that is a day for you to thank God for strength. The Bible says that the rain falls on the just and the unjust, so we cannot think that just because we are believers that everything is going to be perfect all of the time. 

God gives us strength for every day of our journey. We just have to decide if we are going to accept it. I find that when I wake up with an attitude of acceptance. Or when I pray for an attitude of acceptance, I am on my way to a better day. God is in control and I just have the opportunity to live with His grace. 

Shalom and Blessings

“Search for the LORD and for his strength; continually seek him.” Psalm 105:4(NLT)