Its Hard Out Here For Christian Dating


     We all know that as believers,  we are to date other like minded believers.  That is pretty close to impossible when Christian guys seem like they are nowhere to be found. This is the lament of most Christian singles over the age of eighteen.  So we are left bewildered and confused.
     The church teaches us that we are to date and marry believers but the practical how to is lost. Even when a girl does everything right(as some of my friends have) there are moments where you begin to lose faith when your Jude Law with a Bible is nowhere to be found,  or married, engaged,  or dating someone else. Especially when you do meet someone with potential and he says he isn’t dating right now or he isn’t asking you out. To alleviate those moments,  in the past I was quick to ask a guy out. But after learning my lesson the hard way,  I stopped.
     When you stop doing things that don’t work for you, you open yourself up to life. So if your reality is that no one is asking you out, you have to understand that now just may not be your time. This is also a good time to draw closer to God and find out His plan for your life. God usually doesn’t keep that a complete secret, we just have to keep asking and wait for the answer.
     I know that it is frustrating when you have no patience(like me), but I am finding that each day my capacity for patience increases. Then other days I just have to block relationships out of my mind because I think that since I don’t have any prospects then that just means that I’m not meant to be in a relationship.  This works for me most days until I see a hot guy or start comparing myself to someone in a relationship. 
     So yeah I don’t actually have all of the answers but I know God does. As far as I can tell, today is going to be another day of taking life one moment and breathe at a time and just because a guy can’t see how great I am doesn’t mean that I’m not great.
       So if you are having a moment where you feel like you are less than dirt because you are single, pray, and think one new thought about yourself even if you don’t believe it right now. One fake positive thought is better than your real negative ones. That is one thing that I have found to be true in my own life.
     If you don’t have anyone in your life to tell you one positive thing about you, just crack open God’s word because He thinks very highly of us all. If you can’t manage that, just pray and keep praying until something changes.

2 responses »

  1. Oh yes, I just think its harder for women because the onus is on men to initiate and lead in the relationship.


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